It is true, that human’s feelings are not forever. Things get in and out of place anytime they want to. It is not within our reach to control what we have nor what we want. We could only pray, for only God has the power to give you what you want. Don’t be too confident when someone tells you they like you, because, like seasons, feelings changes too.
Many people in this world are constantly struggling to find a peace of mind amongst their habitats. The feeling of acceptance from peers, the constant thought to giving satisfaction to the people around us. Our reasons to allow our actions be in an act of introversion stalls us to never step out from the comfort zone. We feel safe and secure. The thought of having to widen the network sometimes scare the hell out of certain people. Meeting new people will strike many thoughts to the mind, such as, ‘Will they like me?’ or ‘Am I popular enough to join this group?’ Sad to say, these people are the ones that will either end up having emotional moments, or they will end up being called weird by majority, and probably living in a screwed up life. I’ve always believed that it is crucial to love yourself first before your friends for you never know when your friends might abandon you but you know you wont abandon yourself, ever.
I’ve seen many people, acting their way through thick and thin, beating the odds and even just to get accepted in a group they thought to be ‘cool’ where I don’t find it cool by any means. Cool in this context means popular and loved by all but the insides are dark and scary. Cool people get back-stabbed by other cool people, cool people get dumped out of the cool group and then begs to be accepted back into the cool group. I mean, why do people want to be cool so badly? The false love messages from one another, when the next day, you might just find out that they are not talking, again. Groups like these are just BS sometimes. Unstable friendships and false trusts which may ruin good opportunities ahead. Desperate people may even abandon their families and good friends to pursue something that they might not even know for how long it will last, something unreal and materialistic. I guess I’m very fortunate to find my little circle of friends, who were there for me through everything. Although they aren’t cool, nor popular, I’m happy for our relationship is true and stable. Its the sincereness that counts, not the money nor popularity. You know you’ve found the right group of friends when your mum stop calling you when you’re not home past midnight, because she trusts your friends. Good friends need not be cool. They just need to be there.
Sometimes, I wonder how do people find the will to satisfy others that made them suffered depressingly. Frankly speaking, I can’t. I feel sorry to myself. James 2:8 says, we should love our neighbor as ourselves. So, start loving yourself first before you love others, so that you could imply a right concept of love towards your neighbor. True friends accept who you are, and you don’t have to change yourself to satisfy them. [ 3V07 ]
